Ah... Those are interesting examples, thanks for sharing them! I guess I was not fully accounting for the variety of windings that power different amplification stages.
As you point out, efficiency also has a big impact here. With my previous example, a 100w draw on the PSU per channel is from a push-pull design that operates at 40% efficiency (which is pretty high), so I get 40wpc of output power out of a 100w quiescent current draw. Using a 3x safety/longevity factor, that results in 300VA for 40w of speaker power (7.5:1 ratio of VA to output power). Some single ended topologies run more like 10-25% efficient, which comes closer to matching the ratios you provided for tube transformers. The SS amps I've built all feature two gain stages. For one design that I use, the voltage gain stage runs at ~20mA on a bipolar 22v supply (next to no power at all) but the current gain stage pulls 9A out of +/-22v rails, which creates some cooling challenges... I get ~125w of output power from this design that generates ~400w of heat that is pulled from a 1500VA toroid (12:1 ratio).
It seems these designs are all closer in overall PSU spec than I thought... I knew there had to be something that I was missing, this perceived disparity was confusing me! Thanks for the details!